Being a mother has taught me so much. I'm so happy God gave me two amazing boys. I love them with all my heart . I did not know I could love that much (all the mothers will agree with me on this). Often times we are so focused on loving our kids so much that we forget to tell them that we love them.
It is vital that you tell your child(ren) that you love them. They have to know it not to imagine or to think that you love them but to be sure . And the only way that this can happen is by you the mother or the father telling them.
Let me give you a little bit of my testimony I hope it will help you understand the importance of what i am saying.
Where i come from, people don't say "i love you " very often. They show you. As a matter of fact, I can count how many times my own parents have told me that. But they showed me and are still showing me to this date that they do . I mean i understand more now that I am a parent myself, it is their culture they were raised like that. so when i was little i felt like love had to be earned, that it was conditional to certain things like good grades at school, being polite, doing what your parents tell you,...
So as I was growing up without ever hearing the word "I love you"except in the movies or when I read about it in books and I loved reading when I was little but that's another story. I became a teenager, I was a shy little girl with low self-esteem ( that's a whole other story too) head in the clouds falling headlong in the jungle of dating. Boys would come to me saying that they love me and wanted to date me and I was like" what's love got to do , got to do with it"(Tina turner's song) lol. But joke aside, I didn't know what that word meant, I had a lot of questions like : "What is love? am I lovable? what do you do when you love someone? What does that boy want from me?" Since I had no answers to my questions I would simply decline the offer. By the way I am glad I had that kind of thinking because it saved me from a lot of trouble and heartbreaking relationships but many of my friends were not that lucky. After a while I decided to give it a try. Now when I look at my relationship with that guy, I realize it was pure experiment. I was not in love with him, but I wanted to convince myself that I was so that I could fit in, be like everybody else. Fortunately, we stopped before going too far and getting hurt for nothing. I was not really saved at the time I had a foot in and a foot out.
When I met my now husband, I had some of that left and he had a hard time with me like really I salute him. He is a very patient man. Thank God, Jesus healed me and taught me what love is.
I have good news for those of you who experienced the same thing as me, there is a way out of that situation it is called JESUS . JOHN 3:16 : God so loved the world that he gave his only son for whoever believe in him should not perish but have eternal life". That means not only does He love us, but he gave his only son to die for us and he is also willing to give us eternal life. I mean, this is everything, that is all the love we need, nobody else will ever do that for us. So be encouraged, you are lovable and loved. another verse says in JOHN 4:8: "Whoever does not love does not know God. For God is love". So do not listen to those who say they don't love you because somebody does, and He himself is love he is the best teacher about it.
I guess now after reading all this you get my point. This is exactly why I decided that I will always show and tell my kids that I love them. I tell them "I love you" like a thousand times a day lol. I want them to feel it, to know it, that no matter what, mommy will always love them. I encourage the mothers and the fathers of this generation and the mother and fathers to be, to do so. Don't let your child hear " I love you" from other people. Especially if you have a girl, don't let that little gangsta be the first to tell her "I love you". Oh Lord, I can't wait for my baby niece to be born so i can shower her with love, spoil her, the little gangsta has no chance because i will tell her a million times before he does. She will not be impressed at all lol.
If you don't have kids yet you might have kids in your family who need love. Your siblings, cousins, nephews and nieces love them, show them, tell them .
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