Hey everyone, hope y'all are doing well! I have a question for you today. Have you ever been in a situation where you see people doing things they normally don't do or have you yourself been in such situation where you buy things you can't afford, behave strangely in public, hang out with people you don't like or shouldn't be hanging out with, do things because others do it? Well, I must admit I did. Sometimes you look at people or at yourself and you're like:"what is wrong with you/me?".
So the other day I was thinking about it and I found out that it's a natural thing to want to be like everybody else. We want to feel like we belong to a certain group/community that we are not alone in this journey called life. It's a desire for recognition. It's called a "sense of belonging ". Scientists say that it's the greatest human emotional need. Belonging is an important part of our lives. Even some research show that it is good for our health because it makes you feel loved, appreciated,...
So as I grow in my walk of faith I discovered that most of us got it wrong. We do everything possible to fit in a certain group/community. We change our way of speaking, dressing, walking, sometimes even our values are affected. Some of those things aren't bad, but the bad thing is, it can affect our destiny/future in a negative way. Because we're trying to force our way into things that are not for us. And we find ourselves miserable, unhappy, unsatisfied. That's where some people fall in depression, self-hatred,...Because deep inside we know we're not in the right place.
I did some stupid things myself to be cool because I thought it was the only way to remain a member of a certain group of friends. Allow me to share a little personal story. When I was a teenager, I went out with a friend of mine and her boyfriend and since they didn't want me third wheeling(I assume,lol), the boyfriend brought one of his male friends with him, So the guy was sitting next to me and he began to touch my arm while talking to me. I felt very uncomfortable, but I didn't say a thing because I didn't want them to think I was not cool and tell their friends that I was a weird girl who was afraid of boys (insecure I was for sure). I wanted to keep my cool-girl status(lol) .Thank God we were in a public place and it ended with the arm touching. When I think about it, I'm like:"What was I thinking?"I didn't even like the guy, lol. God knows what would've happened if we were in a more private space.
You know, the devil knows about the sense of belonging, he knows that it is important for us so he convinces us that we should change who we are to be accepted, that we can't be loved/appreciated for who we are, that we should have a drink, smoke, buy expensive stuff,be cool..etc. Because our target group/community is doing so. That's a lie. But the good news is, God always has our back in every situation. He knows what we need, and that sense of belonging is for Him, we belong to Him, that's why when we are away from Him we feel something is missing, there is a gap that must be filled by Him only. Jeremiah17:5 and 7 says : 5.Cursed is the one who trusts in man, who draws strength from mere flesh and whose heart turns away from the Lord.
7.But blessed is the one who trusts in the Lord, whose confidence is in him.
Galatians 3:26 and 29 also says: 26. So in Christ Jesus you are all children of God through faith.
29.If you belong to Christ, then you are Abraham’s seed, and heirs according to the promise.
This is awesome, it shows that only by faith our need is fulfilled. We just have to believe in Jesus Christ and we will no longer feel the need to be somebody else, do weird things to fit in or join some group/community that is not for us. In fact, we can completely be ourselves because God is the one who created us with all our imperfections because he has a plan for us, a destiny. All we have to do is trust Him. His love is enough.
And when we accept to trust Him , to enter his family, then He leads us to the right group/community, right relationships, right jobs, etc. So let's just trust him He knows best.
Have a great day. Jesus is The Way.
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