The power of words : Part 2: Speaking life in the lives of others.

 Happy women's day to all of you ladies. I know i'm late. I thought I would write this yesterday, but I did not get the time to do it.
I'm glad we have a day where women are celebrated all over the world because what would be the world without us? I don't know.
I'm going to add my voice to many others and celebrate the woman. Woman you are a treasure to this world, you are a diamond of great value, don't let nobody tell you otherwise.

As women and as  mothers we have many roles to play in the lives of those who surround us.
One of the roles which to me is crucial is to speak life in the lives of our loved ones, especially in the lives of our little ones. We need to be careful what we tell our kids or the kids around us.

When I was little, I was very curious I was asking questions all the time. I had something to say or stories to tell most of the time. My grandmothers and aunts always knew that when they came to visit they had to have a story to tell me before I go to bed.
 And sometimes when you have a kid like that , that speaks all the time it can  be annoying or even embarrassing, so people would  often tell me that i talked too much, one of my uncles even gave me a nickname which pretty much meant "chatterbox" (I didn't like him because of that. Lol. But i forgave him, I'm saved, you know. 😊). So as I grew up I thought asking many questions and talking in front of people was a bad thing. I became shy and afraid to speak in public.
To this date I still struggle in that area. When I have to speak in front of a large group of people I begin to shake and sweat .It takes me a lot of prayers before I'm able to speak.
But by the grace of God it is getting better.  I allowed the holy spirit to change my mindset and restore what has been lost.

This is why we have to be careful of what we say to our kids and also what other people say to them. I would never allow anybody to tell my kids anything negative, I don't care who you are or what your intentions are, you may think it is just a joke but it isn't funny to me. I can't allow anybody to influence their future in a negative way, not on my watch.
As a mother, my job is to make sure that their gifts and talents are not hindered by  other people's negative words, or their own fear. My job is to encourage them to have self-confidence and trust God about their gifts and talent.

John: 2 ,when Jesus and his mother went to a wedding in Cana. In Verse 3, 4 and 5 it says :" When the wine was gone, Jesus’ mother said to him, “They have no more wine.”
 “Woman, why do you involve me?” Jesus replied. “My hour has not yet come.”
 His mother said to the servants, “Do whatever he tells you.”. 
Mary knew who her son was, she knew she gave birth to the son of God and she knew how to help her son reveal the gift that was in him. Even though Jesus said that it wasn't his time, she still told the servants to do what Jesus would tell them. Note that she did not force him to do anything, she paved the way for him so that when he is ready he could  perform The first miracle. 

Now, what if she didn't say anything? What if she just sat there and said:" You know what Jesus? there is no more wine, I guess the party is over, it was a nice wedding,  now let's go home".  Maybe Jesus wouldn't have performed the first miracle, and some of the disciples may not have believed in him because it is said that in verse 11 that after that, his disciples believed in him( you know some of us need miracles to trust him.lol).

Usually women have discernment, some may  call it "Feminine instincts", we have the capability of knowing what our kids are made of. It is a God-given ability, so we have to encourage our kids (or the kids we take care of) and guide them in their gifts and talents, not limit them and tell them what they cannot do or are doing wrong.

We have to pray and ask God how to do it and as Mary we will be able to speak to their inner miracle performer and watch the glory of God be manifested.

The power of words: Part 1: Why we should tell our kids that we love them

Being a mother has taught me so much. I'm so happy God gave me two amazing boys. I love them with all my heart . I did not know I could love that much (all the mothers will agree with me on this).  Often times we are so focused on loving our kids so much that we forget to tell them that we love them.
It is vital that you tell your child(ren) that you love them. They have to know it not to imagine or to think that you love them but to be sure . And the only way that this can happen is by you the mother or the father telling them.
Let me give you a little bit of my testimony  I hope it will help you understand the importance of what i am saying.

Where i come from, people don't say  "i love you " very often. They show you. As a matter of fact, I can count how many times my own parents have told me that. But they showed me and are still showing me to this date that they do . I mean i understand more now that I am a parent myself,  it is their culture they were raised like that.  so when i was  little i felt like love had to be earned, that it was conditional to certain things like good grades at school, being polite, doing what your parents tell you,...
So as I was growing up without ever hearing  the word "I love you"except in the movies or when I read about it in books and I loved reading when I was little but that's another story. I became a teenager, I was a shy little girl with low self-esteem ( that's a whole other story too) head in the clouds falling  headlong in the jungle of dating. Boys would come to me saying that they love me and wanted to date me  and I was like" what's love got to do , got to do with it"(Tina turner's song) lol. But joke aside, I didn't know what that word meant, I had a lot of questions like : "What is love? am  I lovable? what do you do when you love someone? What does that boy want from me?" Since I had no answers to my questions I would simply decline the offer.  By the way I am glad I had that kind of thinking  because it saved me from a lot of trouble  and heartbreaking relationships but many of my friends were not that lucky. After a while  I decided to give it a try. Now when I look at my relationship with that guy, I realize it was pure experiment. I was not in love  with him, but I wanted to convince myself that I was so that I could fit in, be like everybody else. Fortunately, we stopped before going too far and getting hurt for nothing. I was not really saved at the time I had a foot in and a foot out.
When I met my now husband,  I had some of that left and he had a hard time with me like really I salute him. He is a very  patient man.  Thank God, Jesus healed  me and taught me what love is.
I have good news for those of you who experienced the same thing as me, there is a way out of that situation it is called JESUS . JOHN 3:16 : God so loved the world that he gave his only son for whoever believe in him should not perish but have eternal life". That means not only does He love us,  but he gave his only son to die for us and he is also willing to give us eternal life. I mean, this is everything, that is all the love we need, nobody else will ever do that for  us. So be encouraged, you are lovable and loved. another verse says in JOHN 4:8: "Whoever does not love does not know God. For God is love". So do not listen to those who say they don't love you because somebody does,  and He  himself is love he is the best teacher about it.

I guess now after reading all this you get my point. This is exactly why I decided that  I will always  show and tell my kids that I love them. I tell them "I love you" like a  thousand times a day lol. I want them to feel it, to know it,  that no matter what, mommy will always love them. I encourage the mothers and the fathers   of this generation and the mother and fathers to be, to do so. Don't let your child hear " I love you" from other people. Especially if you have a girl, don't let that little gangsta be the first to tell her "I love you". Oh Lord, I can't wait for my baby niece to be born so i can shower her with  love, spoil her, the little gangsta has no chance because i will tell her a million times before he does. She will not be impressed at all lol.

If you don't have kids yet you might have kids in your family  who need love. Your siblings,  cousins, nephews and nieces love them, show them, tell them .